How to Diffuse Anger & Let go of Anger – Jonathan Altfeld’s “Anger-Release” NLP Technique

How to Diffuse Anger & Let go of Anger – Jonathan Altfeld’s “Anger-Release” NLP Technique

Anger management is practically a field by itself within psychology. And yet, sometimes, with the right anger release techniques, you can let go of anger easily and naturally.

“Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned.” — Buddha

Some years ago I visited a coffee shop and met one of the employees who allowed me to unpack a certain amazing cognitive strategy she’d developed unconsciously, for releasing anger easily. She was a young lady somewhere between 17 & 21 (a guess). At first there didn’t seem to be anything phenomenally unique or terribly fascinating about her; she seemed balanced and involved in her environment. As I chatted with her, I discovered she had (at least) one very interesting skill. She told me that when criticized, she never stayed angry for very long!

I thought, that seemed like a pretty neat skill. As I pressed further, I discovered she had set up an internal ‘propulsion system’ strategy which worked very well for her. So after eliciting this strategy, I trained it to many others, most of whom found it extraordinarily effective! So… here it is:

Jonathan Altfeld’s NLP Technique for Releasing Anger

Here’s an NLP Strategy or Technique to help us get past or get over angry feelings. Works great!

Whenever you find you’re in an angry state induced by hearing someone else say something nasty:

Hear someone saying something nasty
Allow your head to begin fill with tension normally and let the normal response ‘begin’ (i.e., when you *could* act with an immediate response)
Set up an “away-from” motivation: Picture a future-pace of angry responses to that person’s comment delivered over time, imagining carrying around that anger that you might have allowed to take over your near future
Make the pictures bigger – Amplify the negatives
Hear potential future conversations with all that anger releasing
Turn up the volume – Amplify the negatives

Imagine a break-away from the away-from
Dissociate from your present experience of allowing the anger to take over the present state. Dissociate also meant getting out of the presence of the antagonist (for her).
Set up a “towards” motivation: Think of a positive thought. A time when everything was GREAT. (for her it was primarily Vc, associated). Amplify the pictures & the submods!
Allow a good feeling to come into the body around the shoulder muscles leading into the neck (upper lats). Begin to relax there. Turn the feeling up, make it warm.
Let the posture change. Get it looser. Allow the mind to clear.
Hear self saying “What a completely different OUTLOOK”

You may need to practice this until you get good at doing this inside your head, thoroughly well. But it works like a charm for most people! Give this a try and hopefully preserve some of your troubled relationships!!!

– Jonathan Altfeld

Jonathan Altfeld is a man of many talents and careers.  His primary business roles include training influential communication skills and applications of NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming), doing personal/life coaching and business coaching, as well as web development, online marketing, and direct response copywriting.  He founded the Mastery InSight Instittute of NLP in 1997 and has been training around the world (across the UK, Europe, North America, and Australia) since then.

Also, his first (previous) career was in the artificial intelligence world, making computers think like people do (not as different from NLP as you might think — essentially both careers are all about “knowledge transfer.”)  As a result, Jonathan’s become a gifted expert in accelerated learning.  His insights will often surprise and astound you!

21. April 2011 by Admin
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